Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Young People Don't Want This Type of Sex, But Are Too Afraid To Admit It

Fear of man will prove to be a snare,
but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe.
—Proverbs 29:25


A new study done by psychologists at James Madison University demonstrates that college students overwhelming prefer traditional dating over "hooking up" even though they "hook up" almost twice as much as date. (Hooking up is the term that refers to casual sexual encounters, while traditional dating refers to enjoying activities with a member of the opposite sex to develop a romantic relationship.)

Turns out—according to Arnie Kahn, one of the co-authors of the study—students are afraid to admit to this due to pluralistic ignorance. In other words these students feel like they are out of step with everybody else, and so they are mostly motivated to surrender their bodies to strangers out of social pressure.

How sad. Young men and women are willing to surrender their bodies to virtual strangers because of their fear of rejection—either by society or by their potential partners. That's so sad. Sex should be a joy, and bring a husband and wife closer to each other in total trust and commitment. Yet, when sex is used as a social tool, it disintegrates people's personalities, and makes their bodies a cheap commodity. And, sadly, for those too young to realize what is being lost, they are the ones being destroyed by this.

How sad.